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| Will you marry Me? |
The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favour from the LORD. Proverbs 18:20.
1. The process and method of the finding determine how 'treasurable' she will be.
There is a difference between finding a wife and finding a 'Girlfriend' and then making the 'girlfriend' a 'wife'.
A wife (in terms of materials and qualities) is a 'wife' even while she is singles.
A wife (in terms of materials and qualities) is a 'wife' even while she is singles.
Here is why:
'In a wealthy home some utensils are made of gold and silver, and some are made of wood and clay. The expensive utensils are used for special occasions, and the cheap ones are for everyday use'. 1st Tim. 2:20.
'In a wealthy home some utensils are made of gold and silver, and some are made of wood and clay. The expensive utensils are used for special occasions, and the cheap ones are for everyday use'. 1st Tim. 2:20.
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| A Marriage Proposal |
2. Your Wife is a treasure unto you. Why? Because she is a manifestation of God's favour on you.
3. That you propose and she said 'Yes' is a favour from God, and that you as a sister was purposefully convinced to say Yes is God's grace.
There are other brothers that even laboured more than you to get her, and there are other Sisters that have gone on Vigils and taken his name to Pastors, just to get him. But here you are; Grace and favour from God made it happen for you.
As someone that has gotten a 'No' before, an understandable 'No' (Lol), the last part of that passage makes so much sense to me.
There are other brothers that even laboured more than you to get her, and there are other Sisters that have gone on Vigils and taken his name to Pastors, just to get him. But here you are; Grace and favour from God made it happen for you.
As someone that has gotten a 'No' before, an understandable 'No' (Lol), the last part of that passage makes so much sense to me.
Am recently studying on Grace, and I can see how Men have taken for granted God's grace.
You see, until we begin to understand that marriage is a partnership unto destiny, may be we can then appreciate the Grace of God or pray for the grace of God as regard making marital choice.
When you marry someone, you are not just choosing one person; you are through him/her choosing who your father In-Law will be, your Mother In-law, brother In-law, Sister In-law, extended family relatives, friends In-law (lol), etc.
You can fast and pray for seven days on Mont Kilimanjaro or Mount Everest, and be very sure that she is your wife. (I believe you that she is your wife), after several attempts of proposing and she is not taking you serious, you decide to wait for ten years for her to say Yes; Buy gift for her, take her to Mr. Biggs, and spend all you can on her. Bro, if you are yet to obtain the grace and favour from God for her to be your wife, You are only taking care of another man's wife.
(I remember Prof. Sunday Isehunwa once advising us to pray on early mercy as regard marriage. He told us a story of a friend that the wife said Yes after ten years of proposal. That my bro, is waste of time. Do you know what they could have accomplish as a Team in ten years? Some waiting can be wasting).
(I remember Prof. Sunday Isehunwa once advising us to pray on early mercy as regard marriage. He told us a story of a friend that the wife said Yes after ten years of proposal. That my bro, is waste of time. Do you know what they could have accomplish as a Team in ten years? Some waiting can be wasting).
4. So, what is it with obtaining the favour?
I happen to be blessed with four elder brothers. As the last born in my family, I have learnt a lot about marital choice, relationship, and marriage as a destiny, from them.
Almost all of them have stylishly or practically being in a relationship before the sister they eventually marry.
But the process of they obtaining God's favour about their choice tells me more about the fact that the favour for finding a treasurable wife is based on Purpose and destiny.
Almost all of them have stylishly or practically being in a relationship before the sister they eventually marry.
But the process of they obtaining God's favour about their choice tells me more about the fact that the favour for finding a treasurable wife is based on Purpose and destiny.
You may not understand the depth of God's will and purpose for you and your marriage when you propose to her, She may not understand you completely when she accepted your proposal; but God gave you the favour of she accepting your proposal because He (God) has in stock for the union between both what eyes have not seen, what ears have not heard and even mind is yet to imagine. Something great that God wants to do through you and your seeds.
And he can't afford that the ignorance of you too about the depth of His will for your union will be a set back to the manifestation of His plan for your marriage.
God's favour is attached to a responsibility.
It's a favour from God that she said Yes, because she is the ordained mother that will nurse your seed and build your home.
And he can't afford that the ignorance of you too about the depth of His will for your union will be a set back to the manifestation of His plan for your marriage.
God's favour is attached to a responsibility.
It's a favour from God that she said Yes, because she is the ordained mother that will nurse your seed and build your home.
5. Every marriage according to God's design is a product of God's favour.
That you as a lady was convinced to say Yes to him, not minding his stature, his 'Six-packlessness', his Oily face, his financial status and social class, his 'leggedesbenz', his 'three -shirtness' and 'four-trouserness'; that, despite all of these attributes that can justify your refusal of his proposal, you became so convinced in the purpose and plan of God for the union of both of you; that my sister, is God's grace at work.
Understanding that all we've been given and blessed with is all by the grace of God, will strengthen our heart to appreciate the purpose of God's design for marriage and the family unit, especially your marriage.
Thank you.
Pharm John Oluwadero
Executive Coordinator, Better Nigeria Initiative(BNI), a youth work and community development agency. He also serves as African Regional Representative for Commonwealth Youth Sport for Development and Peace Working Group.
Executive Coordinator, Better Nigeria Initiative(BNI), a youth work and community development agency. He also serves as African Regional Representative for Commonwealth Youth Sport for Development and Peace Working Group.
Email: johnoluwadero@gmail.com
