Sunday 28 February 2016

JUMOKE ORISAGUNWA V. AYODELE DANIEL DADA : A JUXTAPOSITION



This post by one of my Facebook friends spurred me on to finally write something extensive on the whole Jumoke affair- the bread seller cum super model.
Some have so much criticised the the idea of idolizing Jumoke that it looks as if they envy her or have 'beefs' for her. While some think she is worth the whole hype. The rest are either indifferent or ignorant of the whole affair. I was almost publicly indifferent until someone compared the Unilag Graduate, Ayodele Dade who graduated with a CGPA of 5.0, the highest possible. It made me have interest to give voice to my opinion.
To me,  all the issues, arguments and contentions so far is based on our 'value system'. I mean our erroneous and junky value system.
Some believe that companies and government pay too much attention to useless endeavors as beauty pageants and modelling at the expense of education, I mean school education.
From my perspective, personally I don't value school education as much as life education. I value talent and skill more than academic qualifications and achievements. The school qualifications MAY not have real value in real life, in the field. I appreciate an artist who can draw a beautiful image more than a first-class Engineering Graduate. I prefer the shoe-maker who makes nice footwears to the graduate of Sociology anytime, until that graduate can exhibit some skills he acquired in University to affect the society positively. Sir, your certificate won't rise up and make the society better, it is about you and what you have inside of you.
As we are all different as humans, we have different value system, but the thing is that some have a rather atrocious value-system. Personally, I value practical more than theory. Nowadays, our Universities are just mere instruction grounds. He who knows how to carry out instructions more, makes the highest grades not necessarily the most intelligent student. There is ZERO regard for Creativity and Innovation, and unfortunately those are the things that move greater countries ahead, not the mere 'paper qualifications'. In fact, go and check the most innovative (and richest) people in the world today, they are drop-outs. Bill Gates dropped out of Harvard , Mark Zuckerberg (Harvard) , Steve Jobs (Reeds College) , Frank Lloyd Wright, America's most successful Architect, James Cameron (Fullerton College) Nikolai Tesla (Austrian Polytechnic, Graz), many more examples abound. Note, most they didn't drop out because they are dullards but because of financial incapabilities and extreme divergence, insurgence. These are the ones I call, 'Too cool for school'.
Some would say are they Nigerians? Yes they are  not. We have A few Nigerian examples of drop-out to glory anyway, Wizkid, Tu face, etc. But even if we don't, it is because of our flawed value-system.
My own problem with the whole Jumoke and endorsement issue is the fact that those banks and other companies will only use her nakedness to divert attention to themselves. In fact, to me, she is not exceptionally beautiful. As someone said sarcastically, "She is just there". Anyway beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
It is not her seeming beauty that appeals to prospective companies but her willingness to display it in nudity and depravity. She is from a humble background, she would be more than willing to do anything 'noble'  to make it big. At least she is not sleeping around with anybody, or at least, not yet.
TY Bello is an opportunist, she just took advantage of the poor lady and her ordinary story to make both of them rich, her richer. We have many bread seller who are more beautiful than Jumoke, we have many bread sellers or pure water-seller who have photo-bombed. She was not lucky to have photo-bombed, we all do. She was not lucky to have photo-bombed TY Bello's photos, many have done that. She was JUST lucky to have done so when the already unpopular photographer needed to rise to fame again, all of these still coming back to an Orchestration of TY Bello. It is a cycle. A facade created by the photographer herself. She is smart. Like Linda and gossips.
Nothing spectacular about her story naturally, until TY BELLO made it spectacular. She brought it to this point of awe. She was just a smart photographer. And trust me, Social Media should get a medal in this game of the minds.
All na PR.
It is high time we restructured our value system and understand the dynamics of value and development. We should pay more attention to talents, skills and innovation rather than mere paper qualifications and certificate. If your certificate is not backed with skills, intelligence, sense of innovation and creativity, please take the back seat. Your laudable CGPA won't make that car move, the road-side mechanic would....


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Abayomi Ahmed
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Twitter: @optimysticdex

Friday 12 February 2016

A MOTION IN EMOTION


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 A MOTION IN EMOTION


                                                        


 

It was a Valentine evening, Ayo and Tolu were lovers that have been together for some time. As a usual trend on every 14th of February, gift are always being exchanged by Spouses, Lovers, and friends who are dear to the individual's heart.

Ayo was so eager to meet with his lover in other for him to share a token of his heart with her. He took out his phone to get a call across to her so that they could fix a place to meet.

On that faithful evening, he drove his newly acquired Range Rover jeep while Tolu was at his right side of the driver's seat tightening her seat belt before selecting a cool blues music from the genres of music selections inside the Car. They both went on a picnic at a reserved garden a few kilometer from Ayo's office place. They later branched at a shopping mall where they branched to get some gift items for each other as they both agreed to do.
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"After getting some gifts items at the mall what's next?” that was the question from their both thoughts!!! Ayo's house should be next.

 

Immediately both step into Ayo's apartment, showers of sweet words started rushing out like a busted pipe from Ayo's mouth.

 "I love you. I know you also do, you mean so much to me. The more I get closer to you the happier I am. I'm ready to spend the rest of my life with you, your love and attention is what I needed most. I give myself to you and also expect that from you also. Please let me love you more ... I love you!!! ".

"Kunmi, (as Ayo is fondly called), you know I love you and will always do but ..." Ayo grasp her hands and moved closer to her with a closer eye contact between the two.

Hmm, are you imagining the action that took place after the eye contact?  EMOTION!!!

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 It is a person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data. It is a natural biological drive with a cognitive evaluation that responds to the inward or outward stimulus. For instance, the Stimuli that elicit the emotional response between the two ‘‘lovers” is the closer contact between the two, the sweet words from Ayo’s, and the event that occurred in the environment at that period (Val Celebration).

Valentine day is meant to be like other days in the Calendar to celebrate Love. Image result for valentines day cute pictures Image result for valentines day cute pictures

Love has been defined by many scholar but let me make a reference to the book of life that defines love as God "Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love." 1 John 4:7-8. Love should be an attitude we should all imbibe but we can't claim to love without first knowing LOVE (GOD). The primary qualification for celebrating love is the ability to control our emotion. Anyone who cannot controls his/her own emotion has no business celebrating love with other people.

The question now is ‘‘how can I control my Emotion?’’. Image result for Pictures of emotion in motion  Emotion are Natural biological traits that has been indebted in us for us to subdue. It is our own responsibility to take control of emotion. Many a person finds his/herself in a position in which it is the emotion that takes control of he/she instead of otherwise. You might say ‘‘after all I am so anointed/holy to be carried away by Emotion’’, yes you might be right but sometimes your emotion is not a respecter of your anointing. The bible even stated it clearly in the book of Life:

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV “18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

19 What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's”. The bible didn’t say walk away from fornication (which is control by Emotion) but says flee; ‘‘flee’’ is not to walk away from something but to take a fast race away from the thing. The best way to ensure your emotion does not override you is to run away from it. The action of moving away from an object is known as MOTION.

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Get me clearly, I am not saying Emotion is negative or devilish. We all have emotion, and moreover aspect of emotion does not always relate to sexual drive alone but my main focus on this write up is on sexual immorality which is caused mainly by inability to control our thirst for pleasure. As we celebrate the season of love together, whenever emotion want to override you, change to MOTION. Rom 6:12 says ‘‘Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts.’’ NKJV. Do not lust after the flesh but live a life that will glorifies God (1 John 4: 7-8). There is no relationship after God. Any love relationship after the body of Christ is lust (the strong physical desire to have sex with somebody, usually without associated feelings of love or affection). As I drop my pen for now let me quote apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 5:9 “I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators.
 
The little gift I have for you is this black on a white paper “Whenever Emotion want to override you, change to Motion”. Image result for an african woman fleeing from seduction

Shalom!!!

 

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Birthday Shoutout goes to a friend; Elizabeth Atinuke Ariyo. May you age in grace!

Tuesday 9 February 2016

Be Romantic with your "Spouse"!


FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED

FOR OUR MEN:
 
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Let us take a Selfie my sweatheart


Carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps off in the sitting room, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at times, that's why women behave childish or silly at times.

You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her putting her bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish, she simply wants you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say "I am sorry for the argument".

That's women for you. Every brother needs to study in the university of women before getting married, read books about them, learn what the Bible says about them and you will hardly have a problem with them.
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I love you


Though there may still be some challenges, because you're both from different background and your imperfections are bound to stand.

So, read books about marriage, an ideal home, child upbringing, importance of marriage and the likes. Don't just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you will have problems.

How many men can tolerate their wives nagging let alone shouting? It's said that, you should be quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person should be water.

Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it intentionally, she is just playing with you, if she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So why shout at her over every small mistake?

As a man learn to ignore some things, don't be petty. Some men are feminist; Do "hide and seek" with your wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden or inside the house, even if she is teasing you.
 
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Assist her in the house chores, pound yam, fetch water, don't make her look like your maid. Bathe together, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it's available, cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn't know how to cook. Cooking is not the ticket to Paradise. It's not only a feminine duty.

Use blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle her, scare her at times, call her from work/ school, text her, write "I love you" in a small note and put it under her pillow or in her purse or in her bathroom or in her cosmetics box or inside her cupboard. Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play with her hair. Always tell her, she's beautiful and that you're happy to have her as your partner.
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All these are part of being romantic...When a woman tells you that you are not romantic. It means you are not doing all these things, its not the romance in the bedroom she is talking about. That's why, you brothers have to study "women's language" it's a 10 year course.

FOR LADIES:

It is part of your duty to be romantic too. Your shyness shouldn't get to your marital life and that doesn't mean you should be shy to express your love to your husband.

Send sweet text messages to your husband at work, sometimes even if you are in the room discussing with your husband, still be chatting with him on social media (Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo, bbm etc) even though he is right in front of you, it's fun and romantic! Discuss how lovely he is on your facebook timeline, this will trip him a lot.

You should be chatting with your husband, not other men on social media networks.
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Buy flowers for him. When eating, give him the biggest meat. At times, bake cake for him to surprise him. Ladies, use your soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem like (twinkle, twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart).

Sing poems for him, no shyness is allowed. Don't just be welcoming your husband with an angry face because there is no money in the house, God is our provider. Don't welcome your husband with your body smelling maggi, don't only play with your husband when he receives his salary.
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Welcome him with a warm hug always, and when he is going to work, pray to God to keep him safe and for him to be successful. Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him, it's not easy to be a man, when you see his faith waxing cold, encourage him, don't threaten him that you will seek for divorce, don't compare him with other men, buy him gifts, wash his clothes, sing for him, praise him in a way that he wouldn't think of an alternative, be the best cook, wash his car if u have the time, dress him up, pamper him when he is sick.
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Wake him with a peck and don't complain about his snoring habit.

Let kiss be the messenger between you. Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from what you see in movies..

Most of what you see there are not real. Call your husband pet names. Though you can also call him by his name even if he is 30yrs older than you, as far as he is comfortable with it.

Remember that, God said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women. So respect him and honour him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of roses but a bed of sacrifice. It's said that, there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage.

To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to marry the person one is in love with. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance and you find out you still care for that person.
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Finally, married men, divide your nights into 3: one for yourself (sleeping), one for your wife and one for your Lord.... That's the best night one can ever have.
 
Enjoy this season of Love together with your spouse.
 

 
WATCHOUT FOR "MOTION IN EMOTION".