FOR COUPLES AND THOSE
ABOUT TO GET MARRIED
FOR OUR MEN:
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Carry your wife to the
bed when she sleeps off in the sitting room, make her feel like a baby at
times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at
times, that's why women behave childish or silly at times.
You may have an
argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her putting her
bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is
just being childish, she simply wants you to hold her, look her in the eyes and
say "I am sorry for the argument".
That's women for you.
Every brother needs to study in the university of women before getting married,
read books about them, learn what the Bible says about them and you will hardly
have a problem with them.
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Though there may still
be some challenges, because you're both from different background and your
imperfections are bound to stand.
So, read books about
marriage, an ideal home, child upbringing, importance of marriage and the
likes. Don't just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you
will have problems.
How many men can
tolerate their wives nagging let alone shouting? It's said that, you should be
quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person
should be water.
Brothers, when your
wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your eyes turn
red, just smile at her, if she did it intentionally, she is just playing with
you, if she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So why shout at her over
every small mistake?
As a man learn to
ignore some things, don't be petty. Some men are feminist; Do "hide and
seek" with your wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden or inside the
house, even if she is teasing you.
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Assist her in the house
chores, pound yam, fetch water, don't make her look like your maid. Bathe
together, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it's available, cook
together, teach her how to cook if she doesn't know how to cook. Cooking is not
the ticket to Paradise. It's not only a feminine duty.
Use blind folds to
cover her eyes and tickle her, scare her at times, call her from work/ school,
text her, write "I love you" in a small note and put it under her
pillow or in her purse or in her bathroom or in her cosmetics box or inside her
cupboard. Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play with her hair.
Always tell her, she's beautiful and that you're happy to have her as your
partner.
All these are part of
being romantic...When a woman tells you that you are not romantic. It means you
are not doing all these things, its not the romance in the bedroom she is
talking about. That's why, you brothers have to study "women's
language" it's a 10 year course.
FOR LADIES:
It is part of your duty
to be romantic too. Your shyness shouldn't get to your marital life and that
doesn't mean you should be shy to express your love to your husband.
Send sweet text
messages to your husband at work, sometimes even if you are in the room
discussing with your husband, still be chatting with him on social media
(Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo, bbm etc) even though he is right in front of
you, it's fun and romantic! Discuss how lovely he is on your facebook timeline,
this will trip him a lot.
You should be chatting
with your husband, not other men on social media networks.
Buy flowers for him.
When eating, give him the biggest meat. At times, bake cake for him to surprise
him. Ladies, use your soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem like
(twinkle, twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world
so high, like a diamond in my heart).
Sing poems for him, no
shyness is allowed. Don't just be welcoming your husband with an angry face
because there is no money in the house, God is our provider. Don't welcome your
husband with your body smelling maggi, don't only play with your husband when
he receives his salary.
Welcome him with a warm
hug always, and when he is going to work, pray to God to keep him safe and for
him to be successful. Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to
him, it's not easy to be a man, when you see his faith waxing cold, encourage
him, don't threaten him that you will seek for divorce, don't compare him with
other men, buy him gifts, wash his clothes, sing for him, praise him in a way
that he wouldn't think of an alternative, be the best cook, wash his car if u
have the time, dress him up, pamper him when he is sick.
Wake him with a peck
and don't complain about his snoring habit.
Let kiss be the
messenger between you. Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from what you see
in movies..
Most of what you see
there are not real. Call your husband pet names. Though you can also call him
by his name even if he is 30yrs older than you, as far as he is comfortable
with it.
Remember that, God
said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women. So respect him and
honour him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of roses but a
bed of sacrifice. It's said that, there is nothing better for two people who
love each other than marriage.
To fall in love is a
disease and its cure is to marry the person one is in love with. Love is when
you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance and you find out you
still care for that person.
Finally, married men,
divide your nights into 3: one for yourself (sleeping), one for your wife and
one for your Lord.... That's the best night one can ever have.
Enjoy this season of Love together with your spouse.
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